We have an innate desire to connect, to experience dynamic relationships with one another. We long to connect in meaningful ways and we can build it every day with the people around us.
1. At the beginning of time, God said it was not good for us to be alone (Genesis 2:18). So He gave us relationship.
The triune God created is for humans to exist in relationship, not isolation, just as God exists in eternal relationship as Father, Son and Holy Spirit.
When we are not connecting with God, it will impact our relationship with Him and our partner or those who are in our life. And, the deepest, most intimate relationship exists in the marital bond between husband and wife.
2. After a long day at work, it’s too easy to come home and plop down in front of the television and space out... But don’t forget about your relationship.
Without really knowing what we were doing when we first got married, we started a ritual; we would find a time after work to connect about our day and to touch base, this is something we still do after 43 years of married life. This has had a profound impact to our marriage!
3. Here are eight ways to build connection in your relationship
· Try something new
· Reminisce
· Touch more
· Show appreciation
· Go on a date
· Be vulnerable
· Support your partner
· Be present
4. A connection exists between two people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgement, be real and authentic.
I have a lot of acquaintances but not a lot of intimate friends. However, the friendships I do have are real; we are free to be ourselves, to speak the truth, laugh and cry together; encouraging one another, we know each other’s shortcomings and strengths. We do share a life together.
5. "𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘸𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴." - Tom Ford, Fashion Designer
Taking a moment to connect with someone randomly is such a blessing to them, to others who may be observing, and to the person we are connecting with. I was recently driving home with a dear friend when I saw a young mum out the front of her home watching her children play in a puddle of water on a winter's day. I said to my friend, “I need to go back and encourage that mum and tell her what joy it was seeing her children jumping in the puddles.” She had the biggest smile on her face, and we proceeded to chat for 10 minutes or so. We had such a brief blest encounter along with laughter that was very special.
6. “Human connection is the most vital aspect of our existence; without the sweet touch of another being, we are lonely stars in an empty space waiting to shine gloriously.” - Joe Strange
Loneliness and lack of connection can impact our wellbeing mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
As we go on and pursue a Christ-centred life, let us continue to build a sincere and strong connection with each other as this will bring us closer to God.
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